Without the Sex? Is Sexy Sunday # 60

When I decided to have this spinal fusion I really thought we had all our bases covered.  I mean we talked about every possible scenario. What if I lose my legs? What If I am worse off after? What if my Mom dies while we’re in Florida? These were the hard facts of having a minimally invasive spinal fusion in another state.

That is until I actually had the surgery. Sure the first week was tough. But as weeks go by I realize that we hadn’t covered all our bases. Then I ask him, “What about the Sex?”

The answer I got was with one of those really sexy smiles. The kind where they are kind of caught but in control at the same time.  They know we aren’t going to like what they are about to say. But they are ready for the look and the smart ass answer we sure as hell are going to give back.

He says, “No Sex, I’m not going to be the one to screw up this surgery. Not even for a sweet piece of ass such as yours. We have to wait at least six months.” “What? Who told you that?” And he just laughs at me and tells me I’m going to have heal a lot more before we can have the kind of sex we were having before surgery.

And so here’s my life, each day I watch my loving husband watch me. I mean he’s watching my every move.

If I bend the wrong way I hear about it. While out walking he tells me to slow down. And when we get back home he makes sure I rest. No cooking, no unnecessary stairs. No lifting anything heavier than my coffee cup or my seven pound Chihuahua named Louie. You get the picture.

The way he touches me and kisses me. He’s so gentle, and I say, “I’m not going to break. There’s titanium in my back.” And he just shakes his head and says no. I’m not used to this kind of control.

I mean, I’m the woman and it’s always been my call, hasn’t it? Then I realize I have no choice but to smile and to wait it out.

I realize it’s not about the sex for him. He respects me. And he loves me with all he’s got.

But that doesn’t mean my mind isn’t asking where the hell is the sex?

Today as I hear the baseball game behind me all I can think of is how lucky I am to have this man by my side.

I hope you are all having a Sexy Sunday. And for goodness sake, Don’t forget the Lube!

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