I know I’ve been away for a few weeks recovering from spinal surgery but I wanted to put some kind of Sexy Sunday post out today.
I figure if I can’t have it I can at least write about it. 😉
This one is for the people who are curious about kink and BDSM.
If you are still having vanilla sex then you are missing out on some hot, kinky, wild, exciting, amazing, OMG, satisfying, take your breath away, fanfuckingtastic sex. And don’t get me started on the orgasms.
Now don’t we all deserve to be desired?
Haven’t you ever wondered what it would be like to have your spouse change things up a bit? Of course it had to of crossed your mind. It’s only natural to be a little curious.
Maybe it was after that last session of that same ole boring sex. You know what I’m talking about. The kind of sex that lasted all of ten minutes or less.
Maybe that was when you wanted to bring up the subject of changing things up a bit, but you were afraid too and chickened out.
What I’m asking is; What the heck are you afraid of?
Sex can and does get boring if you don’t add lots of new and exciting things to it. It’s like anything else. You wouldn’t eat the same thing for dinner every night now would you?
If you’ve thought about it then your spouse has thought about it too.
Of course it’s up to you, it’s your sex life. You can go on month after month and year after year having the same vanilla sex. There’s really nothing wrong with the missionary position. Unless it’s the only kind of sex you’re having.
What do you think would happen if you non-nonchalantly started a conversation about spending more time naked in your bedroom.
Do you ever talk about your sex life when you’re not having or about to have sex?
I mean we are all living in a crazy world of Fifty shades of grey. You both have to at one time or another at least joked about having kinky sex. And if you have joked about it then I’m pretty sure it was a test.
Maybe you’ve been out with friends and someone has brought up submission or Dominance.Have you or your spouse ever join in on one of those conversations?
Do you secretly hope that your spouse will chime in and give you one of those sexy dominant look that says, yea maybe we should try this.
What I’m saying is that if you can’t bring up sex when you’re alone or out with friends then how are you supposed to add that extra spice to your own sex life?
There has to be times when you have thought about what it would be like to see your spouse naked, tied up and waiting for you to give them pleasure? Or better yet, times when you are the one being tied up and pleasured.
Fantasies are a good thing. But acting them out is even better.
Of course that conversation about changing things up a bit had to happen before you can jump into any kind of kinky hot sex. .
One thing I want to add is that if you’re reading this there’s one of two things that’s happening.
You are either shaking your head yes as you’ve been there on that proverbial to kink or not to kink fence.
The other is that you want to take that leap of kinky faith, you’re curious and your sex life isn’t what it used to be. In fact it’s not much at all and you want it back.
You see talking about your sex life is all part of the kinky, BDSM lifestyle. And when I say BDSM I’m not talking about whips and chains either. BDSM is anything other than missionary or doggy style.
But without the Communication, trust, and respect your kinky lifestyle will be short-lived.
I do want you to realize that this is actually the kind of sex that can and does bring most couples closer together.
And so having regular conversations about sex and life in general is a must.
Once you’ve discussed what it is that you’re willing and not willing to try then and only then can you move forward with the fun and oh so exciting kinky stuff.
Now I know I’ve said this before but starting with a blindfold is one way for you or your partner to let go of their inhibitions.
For women a blindfold is also a way to shut the world out. Sometimes women have a hard time turning their brains off. And we also have body issues. It’s hard for women to realize that their spouses love them just the way they are.
So a blindfold is that one tool that can make a world of difference in your sex life. It can actually help your woman focus. It can and will heighten the senses so that when you touch her body she will feel that touch ten times more than if she didn’t have a blindfold on.
Adding silk scarves, men’s tie’s, feathers, bullet vibrators, or new vibrators in general or even something as simple as candles at first is a way to get your kinky fantasy started.
Don’t forget to have a safe-word in place just in case.
No matter what it’s your sex life, and your relationship. You make the rules. And being curious about sex is natural. We all want those OMG fuck me harder orgasms we hear about. And you can have them. All you have to do is start a conversation. Texting is one way to do this.
Tomorrow or right now text your spouse something sexy. It doesn’t matter if he or she is in the room. Watch their face when you send something like this; “Do you want to play a game? How about Simon Says?”
Or go into your bedroom and get naked. Then send a text that you are. I’m pretty sure you will hear him coming down the hallway. 😉
I hope you all have a sexy Sunday. And don’t forget the lube.
Goodvibes for all your kinky toys and such..