My Cunnilingus Tips is Sexy Sunday # 54

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My Cunnilingus Tips is Sexy Sunday #54

This week while I searched for my Sexy Sunday topic I came across Kittykat’s Bitandbobs Word 4 Wednesday, or W4W as she calls it.  Of course with sex on the brain for my SS post I used my favorite word, Cunnilingus.

post-body entry-content”> Then I got back to my search for tips on giving women good head and I thought; Why not just write what I like done to me?
And for research purposes only I also have a man who lives with me who I believe is an expert in the field of Cunnilingus. .

There’s also the fact that I’m a woman, I love cunnilingus, And I love the way the word slips off of my tongue.  Say it with me ladies: Cun-nil-ing-us. Every time I say it I get happy, and the lower half of my body starts to tingle. Is that normal?

Ok Men, I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and say I think you want to give your woman pleasure. You also want to give her at least one great orgasm each time you have sex.
But just making the effort is not exceptable.

Since cunnilingus is the best way to make your woman cum why do we still hear that women are faking it? It’s because men/women aren’t doing it right. And the women who are still faking it aren’t helping their partners by faking it.

Ladies if you keep telling your partner that they’re amazing, and that the oral is fucking fantastic when it’s really not. Then how the fuck do you expect your partner to get better at it?

Just think about it for a minute. You’re having a night of passionate sex and your partner thinks those loud moans and noises that just came out of you mean you’ve just had a super-duper orgasm. But in reality you just wanted to get it over with. Why because your partner is not that good, they’re not doing it right and you are bored.

What I’m saying is that if your partner isn’t doing it right then you have no one to blame but yourself. If you would just tell them whats actually going on, or if you said, “I can’t cum that way.” Or “I need more foreplay.”  You should get it. Men especially want to please their woman. And I’m pretty sure if your partner is a woman she too wants nothing more than to make you cum like no other lover that you’ve ever had.

They want to feel like the King or Queen of the world. And above all they want their woman to want them. And to want sex. So faking it isn’t the way to make your partner better. In fact it’s only going to ruin your sex life.

A man will go out of his way to find out what makes you tick or cum. He will search the internet day and night to find the answer. He will talk to his buddies, and he won’t stop until he hears you say Yes! OMG Yes! No he won’t give up until your face contort’s in all sorts of ways and your cheeks have that healthy glow about them.

You all know what I think, That all men and yes even gay woman should be made to take a class on cunnilingus as soon as they reach college. Cunnilingus 101. I mean if Harvard can have a class on Anal then why can’t Rutgers, Princeton or every other college in the United States have a course on Cunnilingus? Knowledge is the key, Right?

So with all that said here are my cunnilingus tips for pleasuring your woman.
Women expect you to give them the best, most intense orgasms they will ever have. Notice I said Orgasms, as in plural, as in more than one.

1) Ladies the first thing you need to do is to make sure you are clean and groomed.
The number one complaint for both men and women would be poor hygiene. Your partner can and will get turned off if their woman is a little musky down there. And lets face it ladies we don’t like musky balls in our faces.

We shouldn’t expect our partners to go down on us if we haven’t cleaned and groomed our Va-jay-jay’s.

Douching isn’t good for you. Vagina’s really do take care of themselves. Soap and water is all you need. Women do have a natural scent that most men find intoxicating. If there is an actual odor that won’t go away it’s time to see the dreaded gyno.

And not every woman has the money to go for a Brazilian waxing every three to four weeks. But we all know how to use shaving cream and a good razor. Your vagina doesn’t have to be bald, just groomed. And since you’re grooming you should expect your man to be groomed as well. Here’s an idea why not groom each other. That’s one way to get the party started.

 2) Now let’s get down to business, Start slowly, Don’t just dive in. Work your way up, down, and around. She has other erogenous zones. Kissing her lips is always a great place to start. The back of her neck, ear lobes, nipples, Try licking her toes, the backs of her knees, Careful these might also be tickle zones, lol. Once you get to her inner thighs she will be moaning for more.
3) As you touch her vaginal lips with your lips start teasing her by licking AROUND the clit at first. Boosting her sexual confidence will put her at ease. so compliment her on how beautiful her pussy looks, Tell her how great she tastes and smells. You can make some noise to show her how much you’re enjoying her. There’s nothing wrong with, humming, and moaning during cunnilingus.

4) Hold her ass in your hands. If you are doing this right she should start moving around. She wants you to lick that clit, She can wait for your tongue to touch it. She should start making some noise that will let you know she likes what you’re doing.

Now In that sensual voice you all have stop what you’re doing, look up at her and ask her if this feels good. This is the art of the tease.

5) With the flat of your tongue slowly lick the vaginal opening up to her clitoris one time. Then  follow the outer edges of her vagina. Make sure to get both sides, going up and down back and forth.  Then do it again. This will get her in the mood. She should be making more noise.

Spread her outer vaginal lips with your fingers. With your tongue pointed, gently and slowly flick your tongue around her clitoris. Feel free to roam around the edges, but keep coming back to her clitoris, as it is the most sensitive. Now the licks should be smooth and steady. Don’t forget to use your lips. This drives women wild. Pay attention to her moans.

 6) Don’t attack the clitoris directly, If you are going to use your teeth be gentle,there’s nothing wrong with nibbling on her love knot. But biting is not something for every woman. Try tongue flicks with licks and sweet warm kisses. Work in circles around the clitoris.

7) Gently pull back the hood of her clit and suck on it gently. Don’t rough-ride all over her like a dog slobbering over everything.Gentle suction is a nice variation to the licks. While you’ve got a nice piece of her sucked in your mouth, lick it while maintaining the suction. This will drive her crazy.  Ladies don’t be afraid to guide him and tell him what pleases you.

8) When you find her “hot spot,” stay there.  If she’s moaning louder, this does not mean you should change your rhythm or technique. This means she is enjoying what you’ve been doing,  so Don’t stop!

9) Insert two fingers in her vagina while licking her clit. Curl those fingers up towards her G-spot and move them in the come hither motion while sucking on her clit at the same time.  As your tongue licks up, pull those fingers forward and get a rhythm going.

10) The majority of a woman’s nerve endings in her vagina are around the opening and within the first couple of inches inside. Techniques are pretty limited due to the length of your tongue.  But try moving your tongue in and out as well as in circles around the inside of her opening.

11) Only in porn, do women have orgasms in one or two minutes. Usually some director is yelling. “Cut! Lets do that again.”

12) Just because she has had an orgasm does not mean that you are done. Don’t be afraid to give her clitoris a gentle, and I mean gentle massage with your fingers as you take a breath. Then use your tongue and lips again slowly. If she’s too sensitive she will let you know.

13) Be patient with her. Performing great cunnilingus can be the key to unlocking your woman’s orgasmic door. When a woman is able to let go and fully immerse herself in the moment, she may even be able to have multiple orgasms. And it’s these multiple orgasms that will take her pleasure to new heights.

Cunnilingus is a delicate skill that requires technique, lots of practice and the knowledge to get it right. And when perfected will leave your woman in absolute ecstasy wanting more.

Oral sex is your chance to finally give her the pleasure she’s been waiting for.  The pleasure she’s and always wanted in the way women were meant to experience it. Lets face it she’s always sucking on your penis and licking your balls. Equal time will keep you both happy.

And what ever you do Do not get upset or beat yourself up if your woman doesn’t orgasm through oral sex.  Most times it has nothing to do with you. All women are different. Some can orgasm from oral sex alone and some never will.

In fact I talked to a few girlfriends about this and not one of the us can orgasm with just oral sex. Nope I can’t and neither can my three girlfriends. That doesn’t mean we don’t like you going down on us. On the contrary we love cunnilingus. And we love it when you love it.

With that said, Some women need penetration with clitoral stimulation. So magic wand or finger on clit with some kind of penetration should do the trick.

Guys it’s your job to figure out what your woman needs and wants.

Have some fun with this.  In fact have lots of fun with this. Lick her clit like it’s the best ice cream cone you’ve ever had. Since she’s not going to melt you can take your time. Remember how you sucked the jelly out of jelly doughnut? Think of her lady parts are that cream doughnut and savor every morsel of her.

The more cunnilingus you give her the better the actual sex is going to be.

All women need foreplay. While licking her clitoris watch her face, listen to her moans. She is communicating, you just have to pay attention. .

We are nothing like men where sex is concerned.

You don’t just put the key in the ignition and she’s ready to go. With women it’s all about those slow and steady licks. Oral sex is LUBE for women.

Of course there are those exceptions to the rule nights. You know those nights where you’ve been flirting and touching each other all night.

That drive home starts to get even more erotic as she’s up against the door with her dress or skirt up around her waist. You have your fingers all in her vagina. It’s all you can do to see the road and get her home safe. When you finally pull into the drive way or park the car you fumble with the keys to the house. Once inside and that door closes it’s ON!

Oh how I love it when that happens.

After you’ve had sex and you are both satisfied you should talk about it. I know it’s not always easy to talk about the details. But it’s the details that make your sex life better.

Think about it this way, If she’s giving you oral sex, and there’s something you want her to do you tell her right?  Deeper, slower, more, just ask her what you could have done better. This is how your relationship gets better.

Communication, honestly, trust, respect and of course Sex. The five keys to every successful relationship.

Now go Have your sexy Sunday. And don’t forget the lube..

10 thoughts on “My Cunnilingus Tips is Sexy Sunday # 54

  1. It is a fun word to say! I have to admit that it’s probably 5th or 6th on my list of favorite sex acts. Im not sure why it’s not higher. It takes me forever to orgasm with just oral. But not long at all with other things. I probably don’t give a man long enough time and now I’m kinda intrigued to linger on the cunnilingus for a while longer and see what happens.
    Fun, inspiring post.

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    • You know Misfiery Since I wrote the Cunnilingus post I’ve talked with a few girlfriends about it. And not one of them including me can have an orgasm with just oral. So I think it’s only right that I add that into this post. That doesn’t mean cunnilingus isn’t a great way to get to that orgasm. It’s fore-play, and fore-play is lubricant. Lubricant Not just for the body but for the brain as well..Thanks for the comment! 😉

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  2. I couldn’t have said it better myself! Great post, hon! 🙂

    I can actually orgasm from cunnilingus, but it does take time. On other hand, it depends on my emotions. If I’m too keyed up, it doesn’t always happen. You have to be mostly relaxed in order for it to happen. There have been times when it happened quickly for me when my honey and I had all the time in the world and I was incredibly hot for his touch and his body on mine. LOL.

    Always fun to read your posts, Annie!

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    • Thanks Babygirl, It’s always nice to hear that you and your man are still going strong. And that you are taking a little time out to read my blog makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Hugs!!! ❤

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