Is There Such a Thing as Too Much Sex? Sexy Sunday #44

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This week I received two e-mails from followers that are both in new relationships. And they both asked the same question: “Is there such a thing as too much sex?”

I didn’t have to think too long about this one. Because the answer is Yes of course there’s such a thing as too much sex.

Lets face it when we start dating someone new we are horny. We want to touch and be touched. We want to kiss and yes we want to have sex all the time.

Just remember this, If you and your new girlfriend are having sex every day, she’s going to start wondering, “Is sex the only thing he wants from me?”

To a guy there’s no such thing as too much sex. If she’s offering he’s going to take it.

Here’s something to think about: guys don’t get sore like women do. Especially after weeks or even months of daily sex. And Women also have to deal with their monthly visitor. There’s cramps, and mood swings, Oh my. And it’s probably better to wait till after her visitor is gone to pursue sex. This is one of those times where you will just have to get to know her better to see how she deals with this.

But most women would love to just cuddle up next to their man and watch some TV or a funny movie. So bring some popcorn.

Don’t forget that you’re still dating. Sure all you’ve both been doing is having great sex But why not change things up a bit. Send her a text message that says get dressed up we are going out for dinner. Make sure you take her some place special.  Or drinks with friends is something to get you both out of the house.

This also gives you both a chance for some real conversation. Sure you might get lucky when you bring her home. But that’s Ok, at least you got out of the house. And You’re getting to know each other. And isn’t that what dating is all about?

The good thing is if you make the effort to really get to know this person you may find that he or she is truly the one.

The sex may be all that and a box of cracker jacks but do you know if he or she can carry on an intelligent conversation? Or without the sex is there just dead silence? Think about it, are you the only one doing the talking? Does he or she only want to talk about themselves? Are you laughing is another question you need to ask yourself.

Sex is one very important part of any relationship. But if the person you’re with is not interested in anything you have to say, or in anything about your life it’s better to find this out now before you start to have real feelings.

Of course you also need to have things besides sex in common for any relationship to move forward. Because if you don’t then you’re going to get bored real quick.

So here’s my advice; just take it slow.  Believe me when I first met my husband we couldn’t keep our hands off of each other. We are still having lot’s of fun and sex is a huge part of our thirty year relationship.

All I’m saying is don’t have sex just to keep the other happy.

And ladies don’t give away all the goods in the first month. I know you can’t help yourselves. You want to keep that man happy. But you need to come up for air and find out who it is that you are playing and sleeping with first..

If that marathon weekend didn’t leave either of you anytime for rest, or sleep. It’s Ok to take a night or two off. You have to be able to just be with this person without the sex to know that this relationship is worth it.

If you feel pressured into having some sort of sex every day or night then you had better nip that shit in the bud now. Respect goes both ways.

If sex is the only thing you’re both doing together then it’s not going to work.

Get the hell out of the house. Find something to do besides each other..Go walk the mall.

Of course if you do wind up at the mall you might wind up in that sexy lingerie or adult toy store. But at least you got out and you will have something new and different for the next time you do have sex.

You both need to find out what your likes and dislikes are. Can you imagine being three months into this relationship and you find out your girlfriend is a vegetarian, And you are an avid hunter, Yikes!

If you are asking me the question, is there such a thing as too much sex, then maybe try having sex every other night.

With any new relationship there should be some kind of romance going on.  Ok there should be a lot of romance. So guys if you think she’s worth it you had better bring your A-game. You make sure she has chocolate, flowers, candles, and even jewelry. I’m not saying diamonds and gold, I’m saying  a sweet pair of earrings she saw at the mall or a necklace you think might look nice on her would be nice.

A little romance goes a long way.

Now I know texting is great, but to really get to know someone you have to see their face when they ask or answer a question. Talk about what you both want out of life or this relationship. Also make sure you both make each other laugh.

The first couple of months is where you find out if you are compatible. Or if it’s really just about the sex?

If sex does become an obsession and that’s all he or she wants then I’m sorry to say this isn’t the right person for you.

Is there ever a time when there’s too much sex? There sure is. But if you play your cards just right you can have a lifetime of love, laughter and yes, Sex.

I hope you all have a Sexy Sunday and Don’t forget the lube.

 

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16 thoughts on “Is There Such a Thing as Too Much Sex? Sexy Sunday #44

  1. Love this, Annie. Sex for me is the full expression of an already outstanding relationship. I don’t need to “bump and grind” with anyone I couldn’t have an in depth conversation with.

    Now, where’s that lube . . . .

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  2. I disagree. I don’t think there is such a thing as too much sex. It really depends on what you want out of your relationship. If you just want some hot sex that says rather superficial then, great. Be honest about it and find someone who wants that too.

    If you want to have multiple partners, great, find someone who is okay with that.

    If you want a life partner, babies and monogamy, then find someone who wants that and date them.

    I don’t think anyone needs to hold off on sex in order to communicate and say what they want.

    If one person feels pressure to do or be someone they aren’t or do something they don’t want to be then there is a problem. It also has nothing to do with the sex, and everything to do with how much you are opening your mouth to speak. The other side, is how much you are listening to the other person and not pretending that they will change later once they decide how great you are. That is a recipe for disaster.

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    • That’s exactly right Smart girl sex, It’s perfectly fine to have sex as much you both want. But when one of you is asking yourself does he only want me for the sex then something is wrong. Opening up and talking about what they both want out of this relationship is so very important. Absolutely if it’s just a fling then by all means go ahead and fuck like bunnies.

      But if you have been giving him sex every day, sometimes three times a day for the last two months and now he won’t even take one day off when you say you’re not in the mood, then something is wrong. That’s when there is such a thing as too much sex.
      Communication is always the key to every great relationship. Don’t you agree?

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  3. A great post Annie! I don’t know if there is such a thing as too much sex for this old pervert? It keeps me young and alive! But, communication is the key in any relationship, rather it’s just sexual or otherwise.
    You and Smart Girl Sex both make some excellent points! Kind of depends on the type of relationship!?
    But one things for sure, stay happy & keep on trucking! Or was that two…lol

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    • I so agree with the communication part. And like I said in this post, with men there’s no such thing as too much sex, lol.
      But it takes a special kind of woman that can have sex three times a day for months on end.
      Maybe I should add to this post: the women that wrote to me were asking because they felt like if they said something their new relationship would unravel. And You should never feel pressured into having. Or Sex shouldn’t be the only reason you continue your relationship.
      Of course sex is one of the five keys I have talked about in almost every post. But if you feel like that’s all he wants from you then there’s a problem.
      The good news is that these two women have since talked to their new partners about this. They have realized that in order for there relationships to flourish they need to be more open and honest.
      Of course they don’t want to stop the amazing sex. They just want to be able to say, why don’t we go see a movie, or get a bite to eat. Or just watch some TV tonight.
      A relationship can’t survive on sex alone. There needs to be other aspects of life going on.. What do you think Billy?

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      • I’d like to give kudos to the women for talking to their men & wish them great happiness!
        When it comes down to it, I am a bit of a romantic. Sometimes I love to just cuddle without any sex involved, I love movies, I love going to different restaurants and when it comes to come T.V., I’m a couch potato at times.
        Soooo, I guess, I do have to agree…lol.. A great relationship can’t survive on sex alone.
        Now when it comes to FB’s, well that a different kettle of fish altogether.

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        • Aww, Somehow I knew you would cuddle if your woman needed a night or two off Billy. Sometimes it’s nice to just be. Friends w/benefits, Well I didn’t say no sex. Now that would just be crazy Mastererotica60. Lol..Ahaha..Thanks for checking in Billy..Hugs!!

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