Matching Bra’s and Panties, Sexy Sunday # 37

Have you ever wanted to hit the start re- button where your relationship is concerned? Just imagine if that button gave you and your spouse back that hot sex life you used to have. Well it can happen. You both just have to be willing to put in the effort.

How hard is it to buy some matching bra’s and panties? They make you feel sexy. And when you feel sexy it shows. That power of the pussy comes through.

I don’t understand why some couples aren’t fighting for better sex. Instead of opening the lines of communication about sex they just halt sex altogether.

In today’s world we hear about women who have finally opened up about sex. Then there’s the women that have just given up all together. They could take it or leave it.

These women figure if they give their men that five-minute quickie they won’t have to hear about sex for at least three days. And they won’t have to give it up again for another month.What?

I honestly think if given the choice these women could go without sex forever.

Call me crazy but if you’re not thinking about sex at least once a day then somethings wrong.  You have to want to have sex. And you have to put some thought into it in order for it to stay exciting and new. Otherwise it’s just boring sex. And who wants that?

For me Sex is something I enjoy almost as much as my Sir does.

And I live with chronic pain. So if I wanted an excuse I have one. One thing I can tell you is that after having an orgasm your endorphin’s kick in.  And if you live with chronic pain you can get anywhere from five minutes to an hour of pain-free bliss. Its amazing!  I wish they could bottle that shit.

I can understand not wanting sex if you have a medical condition. But for healthy men and women there’s just no excuse. Life is short people. Think about the last time you had an orgasm. Yes, see you do remember. It was amazing wasn’t it? Well why not have sex and orgasms more often?

The women who don’t care about sex have lost that loving feeling. There’s no twinge to be tweaked.  They have other things on their mind. And they just don’t think Sex is important enough, it’s a hassle.

But If you think sex isn’t important to your relationship you’re only fooling yourself. Having great Sex can literally save your relationship and your marriage.

It’s more about the connection between two people. Without the sex you’re just two people passing each other on the way out the door each morning. Sure you sleep with each other. But that’s all your bed is used for.

To fix this part of your relationship you’re first going to need to stop with the excuses. The head aches, and the I’m to tired for sex is just an excuse and your man or partner knows it.

When you’re constantly saying no he figures what’s the point in asking? Why bother if she’s not interested?  It’s got to be hard for any man to get turned down every time he ask.. How would you feel if you wanted sex, and every time you initiated it your spouse said no? Yea it wouldn’t feel to good now would it.

Try thinking back to when you were dating when the sex was exciting.  Before you got married and had the kids. Remember how you made sure your bra and panties matched before you went out on a date? You did your hair and make-up, and sprayed that perfume he likes so much in all the right places. You did all this because you knew you were going to get mind-blowing sex before the night was out.

It was all about the chase at that point. Well just because you got the guy doesn’t mean you stop the chase.

What happened to that sex crazed women who couldn’t wait to touch and be touched? I can assure you she’s still in there. She’s just busy with life, work and the kids.

The only thing that’s been added to your relationship is the kids. And you can’t blame them for all the sexless days and nights. Remember that man you married is still the same. He can still make you smile when you’re having a bad day. He’s also the same man who knows how to give you an amazing orgasm when you let him.

Marriage takes work. I mean you’ve seen these really happy couples that seem to have it all. They might make you sick, but deep down you want that kind of romance and relationship. And you want your husband to be attentive to your every need.

Well it takes two. It doesn’t take much to get your man in the mood. Just take your clothes off or flash him a boob and watch how his face lights up. Men need to know that you love them, and that you still want them. They need to be touched and they want to touch you all the time.  But it’s up to you to let him in.

You’ve always been busy. Even before marriage and the kids. You worked, cooked, and you ran errands.  You even had time to spend with your girlfriends.  And you made time for that one man you fell in love with.  It’s time to get out of this very un-sexy  slump you’re in.

Put the kids to bed then ask your hubby to meet you in the living room. Grab two glasses of your favorite wine or beverage.  Now look him in the eyes and start asking him what you both can do to make your sex life better.. For sure you’re going to catch him off guard. If nothing else you will break the ice with laughter. This is how you get that connection back. And this is how you start flirting with the man who loves you more than anyone else in the universe.

Having sex doesn’t always mean intercourse. When you communicate and look into each others eyes there should be that spark. And it should get your juices flowing.

That man of yours is still the same man who stood in front of all your family and friends and promised to love honor and cherish you for the rest of your life.

But if you don’t get your sex live back on track your marriage is doomed. I’m not saying you need to have sex every day. Once a week is all you need to keep the connection that every marriage needs to thrive.

Do you remember those Monday mornings after a sex filled weekend?  You smiled all day and no one could get you in a bad mood.  He would text or call and you got that tingle between your legs just thinking about him and how he made you feel. Well you can get that tingle back.

Ever hear the expression use it or lose it. Well its time to start using it again. Once you do you will want sex as much he does.

You all know that I’ve been married for almost thirty years. We didn’t get to thirty years by ignoring each other. We have a great relationship and the sex is Amazing! We talk about everything.  And we discuss sex on a regular basis. We are that couple that drives most crazy.

My Sir is always surprising me with something new to try. He does his homework.  It was my Sir who got me out the slump I was in after my hysterectomy. We figured it out together, and he was amazing through it all. His patients also made it possible for me to let down my guard and finally shed those inhibitions.

We are actually having the best mind-blowing sex of our lives, and it just keeps getting better. Honesty, respect and open communication and new toys is how we keep things fresh and exciting.

Sex should be something you both plan for together. It’s your way of staying physically connected.

Updating your adult toy chest together online is a way to see what your spouse has in mind for your sex life. Make sure you put a blindfold and a bottle of lube in that cart too.

With a blindfold you can let your inhibitions go. The lube is to make things go nice and smoothly. I promise you will enjoy both. If you talk about the kind of sex you’re going to have before and after you will learn to trust each other again.

Make sure you tell him what you absolutely won’t do too. If he’s a true gentlemen he won’t cross that boundary.

Bringing that spark back into your life is something that will give you both the connection and the desire you need to keep your marriage happy and healthy.

We all have that girlfriend that’s now divorced. Funny how her she no longer has excuses. She’s no longer tired.  Her head aches are gone. She’s no longer worried about the kids staying home alone. She’s wearing matching panties and bra’s again. Because she’s out dating,  having the time of her life, and that includes having mind-blowing sex.

The moral to this story is when you have that connection, you’re having great sex at home and there’s no need to go looking for it elsewhere. Start dating your spouse again. Go out and get some matching bra’s and panties. Then put them on and hit that re-start button.

Talk to your spouse and tell him/her you don’t want to wind up divorced. Or worse, on one of those dating sites where all the other single divorced people go.  They are the ones that didn’t keep the lines of communication open and the sex exciting.

You can have it all if you want it.

It’s not that hard to please the person you love. As long as you still love each other then there’s always a chance to hit that re-start button.

I hope you have a sexy Sunday.  And don’t forget the lube..

Goodvibes

 

29 thoughts on “Matching Bra’s and Panties, Sexy Sunday # 37

  1. Pingback: Where there’s a will there’s a way to have Sex. | Annie Edmonds

    • Thanks for stopping by Pandora, I do think its important to keep that sexual connection. Without it your just friends. Not that there’s anything wrong with being married to your best friend, just as long as there’s benefits, lol.. 🙂

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  2. Love the matchies! Victoria’s Secret lol. Annie your column is always fun and informative. Have you thought of one day writing a book with all your wonderful, entertaining, yet informative posts? I think it could be a best seller! ❤ Just sayin'!

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    • Deb,funny that you say that, Hubby says the same thing. We just talked about it. I remember when I was on Sexy Sunday six thinking it’s going to take a lot of Sexy Sunday’s to make a book. Now I’m at #36. I’ll do it. Just have to wait till after the big move. Lot’s of big Jersey Girl Hugs coming your way!!!!.

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      • Well then it’s a sign isn’t it Annie? I mean it, but I know what you mean about after the move. Hey 36 posts and so many more by next spring and your posts are detailed and articulate and long enough for book material. I told you long ago you should be opening a podcast! I’m always full of ideas for other people, lol, I have to start doing a lot more self promotion after my own move! xoxo Hugs back at you sister! ❤

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        • A Podcast would be fun. Do you realize how much work that would be. My books would never get written, Lol. I’d have to book guest, Such as yourself of course. Not sure if my followers are ready for me on podcast. But it’s an idea and one I won’t say never too. Thanks for looking out.
          D.G. Kaye has a new book out, Words We Carry on Amazon. 🙂

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          • Thanks for always supporting me Annie, and you know I’d be happy to ‘Pod’ with you! xo ((hugs)) I know what you mean about finding time. I am going to keep writing and spend more time looking into new promotional avenues come the new year. Perhaps after you get your 2nd book out you will consider it as an in-between activity. ❤

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            • Supporting you and other fellow authors is the easy part. After my second book is done and by done I mean written, both 1st and 2nd edited, re-edited and edited again, New covers for both done, published out the door done, then and only then will I be able to concentrate on pod cast. But think of the possibilities. I could have an authors corner. A guest corner. And of course Sex w/Annie, hahah.. How much fun would that be? Endless possibilities my friend..The future is bright! Hugs!!

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                • Now you’re talkin. Doing it together sounds perfect. Hey, why not two cougars opening up and telling the next generation how to get their freak on. We know how to keep it going right? Our men are happy. If nothing else it would bring a lot of laughter. And isn’t that what life should be about anyway? You really are the best Deb. YOu and me bringing on guest to show the audience different sexcapades. Things to keep the fire burning. I could just see our faces the first time a guest whips out one of those extra, extra large dildo’s. You now like the one’s that stand in the corner you see in the sex shops, and we have to talk about where that thing is not going. Aahahh.. 😀

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  3. There does seem to be lack of interest in sex in the West. I am no expert, but I base my statement from the fact that the population is not growing all that much there. Being in India, would say that interest in sex is not a problem here at all. If anything, it is the other way around!

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    • I think that’s great news Swamiyesuda. People live happier lives when there sex lives are amazing. Knowing that I don’t have to worry about the people of India where sex is concerned makes me Happy!! Thanks for stopping by, and do come again. 😉

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      • Thanks for writing, Annie!

        Yeah, I wanted to write this earlier, but let me do it now. In India, at least half of the Women do not wear panties, as the very style of dresses, the sari and the skirt under it, make it almost unnecessary. And Most Women do not wear Bra’s either. I am talking taking the Villages into account. Cost is a great consideration here.

        So it is NOT the colour or the style of the underwear, but Sex itself that is Loved and Practice here, in its Full!

        Love and Regards.Keep up the Good Fight. 🙂

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        • That’s great, No panties, bra’s, Wow, India is more advanced then I thought it was. But if it’s about the cost I can see that. The point of Matching the panties and pretty bra’s is to take care of yourself like u did when you were dating. To wear some make up and not just grab that old pair of panties and non matching bra. To take the time to think about what your partner would like to see you in. That excitement of getting ready for a night of romance ending with fabulous sex and the ultimate orgasm. I know you understand what I’m saying. The women might now wear pretty panties or bra’s with lace, but there must be some ritual that they did before you got married that you miss. Think about it and let me know. Cause now I’m curious to hear what it is that women do in India for the first night their giving themselves to their lover. I don’t think sex is saved for the wedding night anymore, is it? Thanks for the comment sweetie. 🙂

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