Ten Kinky Tips to Get You Started, Sexy Sunday # 29

 

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This week I thought I would list ten things that any couple can do to spice up their sex lives. It really doesn’t take much. Love, Laughter, some toys,and maybe a glass of wine or my favorite Kinky pink.  You can try these ten things or make up ten of your own. There’s a way to spice things up right there. Sit down with your spouse and make up ten things you both are willing to try. Or you can pick a few from my little list.

1) Romance, Plan a romantic dinner for two. When he walks through the door make sure you he knows what’s happening without you having to say a word. Ask him or her to get comfortable. Make them a drink. As  you take the pan of roasted chicken out of the oven make sure he see’s that you’re not wearing any panties.

Then as the dinner winds down start licking on that chocolate covered strawberry. Then ask if he wants to know whats for dessert?

2) Trust, It is the main part of any kinky fuckery. It doesn’t happen overnight. But without it there’s just vanilla. So make sure you treat your spouse, sub, wife, lover, partner or your Boo the way you yourself would want to be treated, And that’s with respect.

She has to completely trust you before she can let her guard down. There has to be trust before she will or can let go of her inhibitions. Can you imagine letting another do what ever they want to you? That takes courage like you wouldn’t believe. Reassure her that you would never hurt her. Then blindfold her.

Make sure she knows what you’re going to be doing before you do it. Slow and steady wins this race. Tell her what toy you’ll be using next. Let her get comfortable with the process. If you can give her what she needs, She will open up like never before.  Your woman needs communication, trust and that blindfold.

3) Dirty Talk, Talking dirty to your spouse has to be timed just right, or its all for nothing. Don’t walk up behind her and tell her you want to bend her over and fuck her if you see she’s having a bad day. You have to be observant at all times. Watch to see if the kids driving her nuts?  And if it’s that time of the month make sure you come home with a large bar of Cadbury chocolate. and give her a foot rub. Take care of her and She will remember it. When the week is over she will reward you in the sweetest way possible.

On the other hand if you’re both having one of those playfully sexy days, then this is the perfect time to talk dirty. Don’t get offended when she giggles or laughs.  Just Whisper in her ear what you’re going to do to her and watch her submissive side come to light.

Ladies if you’re the one talking dirty watch how pleasantly surprised he gets when he hears dirty words coming from your mouth.

4) The Toys,  If you’ve been listening to any of my blogs you know that adult toys are a must for spicing up your sex life. And by now you must have a nice collection hidden in that closet or under the bed or in that draw.  Now’s the time to show your spouse the goods.

Plop the box of vibes, feathery ticklers, cuffs, paddles, the blindfold, dildo’s, plugs, nipple clamps, rope, flogger and huge tube of Lube on the bed. Just watch your partner’s expression. Should be an interesting night, don’t you think? he he..

5) Directions, Make some noise. How else is he or she supposed to know if it feels good?  If you’re not moaning and saying Yes! Oh God Yes! Then there’s something wrong.  Also if he’s not touching or licking you in the right places its Ok to let him know what direction he should go in.  How else is he going to please you? Our men are not mind readers. You should only have to tell him once. Sex is a two-way street. Giving and getting is how sex makes you both happy.

6) The Mood,  Setting the mood,  Candles or soft lighting at first is a good thing. Slowly bring your partner into the light. Most women don’t like having sex with the lights on. They don’t think they’re beautiful. And no matter how many times you tell us we still feel insecure about our bodies. But it can and does get better with time and patience.

Weather you like music playing or not setting the mood can make all the difference in how your night goes. Remember things don’t always have to be serious. laughter is sometimes just what the Dom ordered. Sex is messy, it’s awkward, it’s sticky. Things happen. Batteries go dead. The Magic wand won’t start. The pillows need adjusting. Just Go with it and when all else fails, Laugh. Sex should be fun.

7) Turning the Corner, Don’t push, But do push. Starting with light nibbles can turn into nips or soft bites on the neck, thighs, or elsewhere. Pinching her nipples harder than you usually do will show her you mean business. Listen for that hiss as you tighten those nipple clamps.  She’s not yelling Red Or Stop! She’s actually giving in. Because it’s the kind of pain that feels Oh So Good. She’s letting go. This is where your sex life turns that corner.

8) The switch, Let her be the top for the night. It probably won’t last. And more than likely you will find out a few things that she might like. What I mean is if she’s doing it to you there’s a good chance she likes how it feels and wants it done to her.

9) Kissing, Don’t forget the kissing. Kissing is a very intimate act. It’s the connection that you both have with each other. It a way to tell each other that you love them without saying a word. And ladies when he bites that bottom lip, Um yea you know what I mean. Kissing your spouse is the one thing you should never forget to do.

10) Cuddles, After you’ve both had your fun and the Orgasms have reached their all time record hold your spouse, sub, wife, partner.  Since you’re both completely satisfied this is the time to ask some questions and get honest answers. It’s the best time to hear the likes and dislikes.  Ask her what it is that she would like more of, Or what she might want to try next? You see while you’re holding her she is more apt to open up. The trust is there. You’re showing her how much you love and respect her by cuddling.

In the end it really doesn’t matter if you use one or none of these tips. Just as long as you change things up a bit from time to time. And you talk to your spouse. If you think your spouse is holding back or maybe they just can’t talk openly about something sexual just yet, ask them to find an article or maybe a scene in a book their reading and send it to you.

Or better yet ask them to read it to you. My Sir makes me do this. And yes even I get shy, more submissive when he asked me to read something sexual. Even when I read back a scene in one of my books that I’ve just written I start to giggle. He loves it and isn’t that the point.

The point is, It gets monotonous re-living that same ole sex scene. I know there are so many women out there that would love to add that extra spice to the bedroom. But they’re afraid that their men will laugh at them.

Let me put it this way. Is your relationship worth the risk? Lets face it, if you can’t talk to your spouse about sex then who are you going to talk too?

It’s up to you to at least try to make the decisions for change. No one can do it for you. Well maybe I can. You can send your spouse my blog.

Or  Think of  little me, 4’10” with my Jersey girl accent talking to your spouse; “Hey! Aren’t you tired of the Missionary position? Cause she’s tired of it. Snap out of that vanilla fog. She’s trying to tell you something.

So listen up; Your women wants you to pleasure her in ways she’s never been pleasured before.  And she’s willing to please you back. She want’s to try new kinky things with You. Only you can make this happen. You just have to Buck up! Do some research. This is your chance to get a little or a lot freaky with her. Why not Be her gentlemen by day, and a Sir by night.”

I hope you all have a very Sexy Sunday, And don’t forget the Lube.

Goodvibes.com

 

3 thoughts on “Ten Kinky Tips to Get You Started, Sexy Sunday # 29

  1. That, my dear, was a very informative, sexy , fun article.
    All ten tips were good.
    I try to change things all the time with m so she never knows what’s going to happen.
    Except of course we’re going to…well you know. 🙂

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  2. Thanks Billy, Just thought I would lighten things up a bit this week. Sometimes we need a little re-cap. A little reminder of why I write this blog. And that’s to get couples to start having good sex.

    It’s like food. If we ate the same thing day in and day out it would get boring real fast. Sex is the same way. I don’t think you can be happily married for 30yrs without spicing things up.

    I do wonder if I’m helping anyone. So if you’re reading this and I have helped you get your mojo back on track let me know. What made you try something new?

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