Sometimes It’s Not Sexy At All, Sexy Sunday #21

I usually have my Sexy Sunday post written no later than Friday. But Life has a way of kicking our ass’s when we least expect it. And not every Sexy Sunday is actually sexy. I have been under major stress lately. And for a woman who lives with chronic pain stress can make my pain levels go through the roof.

So I know you’re asking what the hell does this have to do with Sexy Sunday? Ok I’m getting to that. What I’m trying to say is sometimes just being with the one you love is all you need for a Sexy Sunday.  Yea I know where’s the cunnilingus and the orgasms this week Annie?

Well when your mom is about to have her first round of radiation on the 4th anniversary of your dad’s passing Sex is the last thing on your mind. Ok not the last thing but it’s not top priority.

Sure I had sex this week and I absolutely had multiple orgasms. But as the week got closer to the start date for mom’s radiation my mind just shut down to everything sexy.

Yes life has a way of putting a damper on our sex lives.  And when these things happen it’s more about just being together than the sex.

Four weeks ago my mom fell and fractured four ribs. We had no idea that day would change our lives forever.  I do believe my dad pushed her. But that’s just me.  While they were doing the x-rays in the emergency room they found a spot on the lower lobe of her lung.  Cancer, Yes it is The C-word that none of us could say until all the test came back two weeks later.

Now this came as a total shock to all of us because my mom had a liver transplant fifteen years ago. The drugs that were supposed to protect her life are the same drugs that have fed the Cancer. Yes anti-rejection drugs give Cancer a free pass to invade the body and go where ever the hell it feels like. Anti-rejection drugs of any kind don’t let your body fight off the bad stuff. So instead of Mom having stage one it traveled to her spine and is now stage four.

I know this isn’t the Sexy Sunday post that you’re all used to.  I apologize for that. There is absolutely nothing sexy about Cancer. Nor does it make you want to think about or feel sexy in any way. But today as I started to write this Sexy Sunday post my Mom is getting ready for her first radiation treatment tomorrow.

The Chemo is coming in the next few weeks but not till she is off the anti-rejection drugs completely. I do thank the angels that Mom had the where with all to start taking herself off of these horrible drugs five years ago. Or this Cancer would have taken over her body a lot sooner. She is down to 2 mg per day. Once she’s off that’s when the real fun begins, Chemo.

I just want you all to hold your loved ones today. Yes go ahead give them a hug. Steal a kiss. Tell them that you love them. And make some plans for the future. Don’t just sit around saying I wish we could do this or that. Start doing them. Make shit happen now. And if your sex life is in the toilet its time to flush those old ways of thinking and start getting what you both want out of life. And that includes your Sex life.

Tell your spouse how beautiful they look today and everyday from here on out. Believe me even with puffy eyes and mood swings that go every which way these days my hubby has been amazing.

I really do feel bad about not writing what I usually write. Next week I will do my best to bring you something a lot more hot and sexy. This week I just had to let you all know what’s going on..and if that makes you get a little closer to your loved ones and or spouse then what I’ve written this week will be worth it.

Hey I have an idea, how about today you all start reading my erotic romance, Lol.. That aut to make up for my sexy Sunday post..There’s a lot of hot kinky sex in that book of mine with added suspense and drama,lol..

All kidding aside, I really do hope you all have a Sexy Sunday..

Oh and don’t forget the lube..



18 thoughts on “Sometimes It’s Not Sexy At All, Sexy Sunday #21

    • Thank You Alienorajt, She just called and is in great spirits. She said the radiation took twenty minutes and she was out the door. But not before she made the doctor, nurses,& techs all do a dance with her. Mom is determined to kick this Cancer to the
      curb. As for me I will be fine. Been living with pain for far to long to let it beat me. If mom can beat Cancer who am I to complain about chronic pain.. Thanks again, Hugs, 🙂


  1. Sending you prayers for your mom my sweet friend. We write about life and sometimes it’s just not always roses g/f so we understand. I’ve done the radiation circuit with my own husband, so I know what it can take out of you. Be well, stay blessed and feel free to write whatever is gnawing away at you. After all, it’s your page and those who follow you understand many more feelings besides only sex. 🙂 ❤

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    • Thanks my sweet friend, I think I’m more worried about the Chemo that’s coming. Going to see her tomorrow, spend a couple days. And in two weeks It’s my turn to watch over her. I have the best siblings/family. With all the love being sent our way we have no choice but to get through this. And then with any luck. Florida here we come. 2015 is going to be
      amazing!! Jersey hugs coming yur way!! 🙂


      • Toronto hugs right back at ya! Yes, the power of prayer is amazing and your mom is so lucky to have so much love surrounding her. I know you love Florida, I like it too. We’ll be going in January for a few days before our annual winter cruise, which I loveeeeeeeee. We’re going to check out Arizona in September to scout around for winter properties. These Canadian winters are getting much too brutal and Jersey is only a hop, skip and a jump away, which means your winters aren’t much better. Who knows, maybe destiny will meet us up one day! ❤

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        • Yes you get it, Winters are brutal. My back can’t take it anymore. Now wouldn’t that be great! It will happen, we are going next year no matter what. Taking Mom with us. Oh boy what am I getting myself into, lol.. She has lots of friends so we can always drop her off when needed. Mike loves to fish, I love the beach, sun, life, and what better place to live out the rest of our days.. And hay if you ever get to Sarasota/Siesta Key let me know, Drinks on me.. Hugs


          • Fabulous. Funny you should mention. Our best friends have a place in Sarasota. So we may visit them. We do go to Miami for a few days before our annual cruise but I know that’s a drive! 🙂

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  2. Never worry about what you can or cannot write. Life is neant to be lived and lived with the ones we love. I’m so sorry about your mom. I’m sending her thoughts of healing and peace. Do what you need to do and take care of yourself, too.

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    • Thanks so much, the more prayers she gets the better. She is a strong woman. I have no doubt that she will fight. As for the rest of us we need something amazing to start happening. And her getting better would be amazing..Hugs!!


  4. See DG, Your best friends and My best friends live in Sarasota,Fl. We are going to meet one day. I just know it.. 😀


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