Vanilla rut, Sexy Sunday # 15

Are you stuck in a vanilla rut? Does your sex life need some kink? If you’ve been thinking about what’s been missing from your sex life for awhile now then it’s time to start talking to your spouse/partner.

Your sex life is yours to mess with. And as long as you and your spouse/partner are willing to change things up a bit then by all means go for it. Life is to damn short to be living in a sexless relationship.  The missionary position stopped being fun after the fist six months of marriage. It’s time for something new.

Are you going to wait for five, ten or even thirty years? Vanilla can and does get boring. If your sex life is in need of something new why not get on the internet and see what gets your juices flowing.

And guys please remember that your spouse is not a porn star. When you see a porn star fucking some guy with a huge cock she’s getting paid to look like she’s enjoying it. In reality when the director yells cut she’s done moaning.

Your real life spouse needs you to start slow. If you start pounding her you’re going to hurt and scare her.  And if you scare her she will never want to try something new again. Ever!

Have you asked your spouse if he or she is happy with your sex life? Did you ask her/him if they would like to spice it up a notch or two?

These are the kind of things that brings couples together. It’s exciting to start thinking about what you want to do to your wife/partner. Or maybe talk about what she wants you to do to her.

Believe me if she’s reading or has read any kind of romance book she has thought about kinky sex. This is nothing new to her.  She’s just been afraid to bring it up. It blows my mind when I hear that couples don’t talk about adding kink to their lives. Sex shouldn’t be routine. Sex shouldn’t be boring.

Boring sex would be like eating peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for the next five years for dinner. That would get old quick. Haven’t you heard that variety is the spice of life. Did you think they were talking about a cook out?

Don’t be afraid to try new things. What’s the worse that could happen? You don’t like something?  If that happens you just laugh and move on to the next kinky exciting thing.

Just don’t give up. Sooner or later you’ll both find something that gives you that tingle you’ve been waiting for.

The difference between normal sex and kinky is up to you. Ladies if you want to dress up and go to a swanky hotel and sit at the end of the bar and have your man pick you up.  Then by all means do it.

If this is what turns you on then what are you waiting for. But remember that when he takes you home it will still be the same ole same ole sex life. Unless you talk to your man and tell him what’s on your mind.

And men if you want your woman to lay naked on the bed with her hands above her head waiting to be tied up than you have to let her know.

If you want your woman to get to the point where she plays with herself in front of you then you have to start getting her comfortable now. Turn the lights down not off and lay next to her or across the room. Tell her to make like you’re not there. And be quiet. Or you can help her by asking her to touch herself while you’re both having sex. If she can get used to that it’s half the battle.

You can also start by  clicking on one of the Goodvibes banners I have on the front of my page. Or the bottom of this page.  Try adding some sexy kinkery to your cart. We all need tools to start any project.

Goodvibes even has a section on how to and what to do to make your sex life more enjoyable.

Sooner or later you’re both going to get tired of boring sex. So why not be ready for the day when you both open up about it. But you had better think fast. Chances are if you aren’t in the mood to teach and play with your spouse there is always someone out there that’s willing to rock her world.

A marriage or relationship needs to be revitalized every now and again. You have to mix things up or it’s going to get stale. And if you think peanut butter and jelly is boring try eating stale peanut butter and jelly sandwiches.

Come on, you have to agree that this post is making you think about what you can add to your sex life that will give it that spark.

What is it that turns you on? Is it’s thinking about getting hot wax dripped on your chest or her nipples, or seeing her newly shaved pussy with a dildo sticking out of it then tell her.

Rather then just sitting there waiting for lightning to strike why don’t you start licking her clit till she starts screaming for you to give it to her.  Are you willing to let life pass you by? She see’s you looking at other women. Start looking at what you have.

When was the last time your spouse had an amazing orgasm? Can you even remember? And when she did do you remember how beautiful she looked? Well did you tell her how beautiful she was? Or did you just roll over and take a nap?

Guys you really have to start paying attention. The kids will be out of the house soon and you will look at each other and one of you will ask for a divorce.

So wake up and start using your head.

Have you tried nipple clamps or a soft silky blind fold.  Maybe you would like to try some bondage tape a magic wand and a bottle of lube. Those things right there are the basic tools you’ll need for an hour of hot Kinky sex with no vanilla in sight.

Just remember that you love each other. You have to tell her what it is you want. Don’t just do something new without talking about it. Sure you can get the tools. But before you start building you need a plan.

And ladies when he takes that ridding crop out of the closet and smacks your ass be ready to tell him weather you like it or not. This is your sex life. So start acting like its yours.

If you want to have a long lasting relationship start by communicating what it is that you want. Don’t expect your partner to read your mind. If you can’t wait for the Goodvibes package to arrive than by all means use your imagination and get started today. I’m sure you can find what you need at your local drug store.

Send your spouse a text message to get them in the mood. “Sex tonight?” Might be a good start. But first let them read this blog.  Or they might think you’ve lost your mind when you start tying her up with your neck tie.

And remember to keep it light. Laughter is a good thing. So is lube. I hope you have a very kinky Sexy Sunday.

And don’t forget the Lube..

Leave a comment or Ask me a question, If you have an idea for a Sexy Sunday post.  Send me an e-mail,



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