We all need human contact. Sure we can touch ourselves and have fun doing it. But is that how we really want to have sex all the time?
I know for me I want to be touched by my Sir in ways that no one else can touch me. And touching goes both ways. I touch him and he touches me.
He knows every inch of my body better than I know it myself. And I love that about him. And when he walks up behind me, moves my hair off my neck and bites that erogenous zone. Oh yes, I get goosebumps just thinking about it.
We have always been a very sexual touchy feelie kind of couple. It’s just a known fact with our friends and family. They all know to call before they stop by and knock before they come walking through the door. Of course there have been a few surprise drop in’s over the years. We just laugh, at this point it’s not us who get’s embarrassed.
So let me see if I can help you get intimate and start touching your spouse on a regular basis that will be a good thing. If you are trying to jump-start your sex life you need to start with no distractions. If the kids are home this isn’t going to happen. For the jumping off point you will need to be alone. After that it won’t matter whose home.
So it’s best to find a night where you have no doubt that the kids are being taken care of and you’re not going to be interrupted. Call grandma, or have the kids stay at a friend’s house for the night. Better yet, get out of the house and make it an overnight or a weekend getaway at a nice hotel out-of-town.
Bring all the essentials, vibrators, lube, dildo’s, blindfold, magic wand, did I say Lube. If your woman has felt less than sexy or her libido is out of whack it’s time for something called Please arousal cream from Goodvibes.com. It should be called Please me! Arousal cream. Or you can try Zestra which can be picked up at your local pharmacy.
And since this is the weekend you try new things how about some message oils. Watch the scent. Get the one that turns you on not off. My personal favorites are always vanilla or coconut oil.
Since the mood is important don’t forget music, some candles, and a bottle of wine. Better make that two bottles of your favorite wine or the beverage. What ever you have to do to relax this is the time to do it.
If you can both plan for this getaway in advance. The build up alone can be very exciting. Remember this is your chance to re-connect. Start shopping together or separately for some new and exciting toys and lingerie as soon as you set the date. And surprise each other.
This is a way to introduce some kink to your relationship. Maybe you’ve been wanting to try the submissive /Dom role’s. Well this your weekend for that too.
Just tell your partner so he can at least have a chance to look up what he’s supposed to do as a Dominant. And remember this sort of thing doesn’t happen overnight. But it can be fun to roll play and that’s all that matters.
Believe me when you start adding new toys or a fetish to your sex life this is how you start to communicate with each other.
Find out what your partner would like to see you in and either by it yourself or as I have said before let them buy it. But give him/her your measurements. You don’t want the outfit to be the wrong size for this weekend. And remember you are going to be their fantasy. So no matter what it is that they bring put it on and don’t bitch about it.
Now with no distractions take a deep breath and clear your head. Leave the stress of your everyday life at home. If possible turn off your cell phones. If you can do this your night or weekend alone will be amazing.
It doesn’t have to be all sex the entire time you’re away. Take a walk, open up, hold hands, look each other in the eyes. Stop and kiss passionately. Go out to a nice dinner, or role play in a new city.
Walk into a strange bar or nightclub and act like you don’t know each other. Talk about this before hand. And don’t get excited if your partner starts getting attention from other men or women. Remember they are going home with you.
Don’t leave them hanging for too long. Get up and walk over to them and mark your territory with a slow kiss. Then take them by the hand and get out of there. This is foreplay.
Now let’s get to it. Once you arrive back at your hotel get comfortable. Start with a shower or a bath. Let him wash your body, and you wash his. Being clean can make a difference. And it should relax you both. Next try a message. Think of his slippery hands in every crevasse all over your body.
Or do what you’ve always wanted to do. Just talk about it first. If you don’t it could go horribly wrong.
Get your toys out and start showing each other. You might learn some things about your partner by the toys and such they brought with them.
Relax and enjoy each other. Have a drink. Light some candles. Think romance, think sensual, kink, think Orgasm. And remember that you love each other.
This is your weekend so do what you want. If you’re really not in the mood for sex then how bout you take this time to talk about the next phase in your sexual relationship. Be open about what it is you want. If you start a communication about sex sooner or later it’s going to lead to sex. Your brain is a sexual organ.
And lets face it, you’re in a hotel room with the one person you want to have sex with. Once you start touching or getting touched in places that you haven’t been touched in a while. It’s on, just let go and enjoy each other.
You might want to try a blindfold, this is fail proof. You see with a blindfold you can be free to let those inhibitions go. Nothing else matters in the world except what’s going on between you and your spouse at that moment.
When you hear the sound of your partners voice that alone can get you excited, horny and wet. Remember this is your weekend. Be supportive, honest and respect each other.
I have to say if this doesn’t spark your relationship into sexual high gear than I don’t know what will. Yes a night or weekend away from your hectic busy lives can and will bring you both back to where you need to be.
Have fun, laugh, this doesn’t have to be serious. Remember you know this person and he/she knows you.
After a getaway like this you should feel a stronger connection. You’ll be more apt to touch each other on a daily basis. The magic that can happen with one night or weekend away can last a lifetime if done right.
As always, I hope you have a Sexy Sunday. And don’t forget the lube..